Neurotypical Code Search as a form of Media Illiteracy

 Wow... impressive title right? Makes it seem official, and like I am handing over The Olive Branch(TM)(C)(R) towards Neurotypicals on this one

Now, it is no secret that I do not include secret codes in what I write. Well... currently. I do one day hope to have a full on ARG going on with my works. Though that might require redacting this paragraph

However, it is well known that most Neurotypicals insist on acting like every sentence you say has a bunch of secret stuff included in it, that was not actually stated. While also acting like they've said a bunch of stuff when they've been silent about those views

Myself, I typically understand the average person to be too stupid to try to behave in such a way. Yes, sometimes I end up messing up and falling back to including subtly in my words. Needless to say, that has always been a mistake. With the issue never being with people who ASD, but always it being Neurotypicals who that stuff goes over their head at a rate that has me thinking there is a major linking air port behind them or something

I've also had issues where I've been saying stuff that is the equivalent of bashing people over the head, and it also had similar failures as "being too subtle"

I've also kind of figured out what is kind of going on. As my Neurodivergencies are not ones that can be named--but generally have most people seeming really really transparent

Ye Ole "Everybody thinks like I do" Syndrome

"Yes, walk up this mountain with very little current human activity and see a pile of gold and riches and just assume that there is nothing wrong here. Go ahead, just go right ahead and do that. Literally everybody else does" -- Frigyth the Grumpy, Musings Before Ketchup

Why yes--this is literally what is _actually_ happening when Neurotypicals are "finding codes" and "place codes" into what they are saying. They are operating under the notion that how they approach the problem is the default defacto standard--and everybody who is human will also approach the problem in the exact same way

Neurodivergents do not suffer from this quite as much. Though, you will still observe a lot of them acting like other people with the same disorder will approach stuff like how they do... even after repeated encounters with other people who have the same disorder not doing that said behaviour. Making it so that subset does still behave in ways similar to Neurotypicals

The whole notion "Everybody thinks like I do" is a common form of immaturity that makes interacting with teenagers feel like pulling teeth out. The flip side of the coin, "Everybody else thinks the same, I'm superior than them" is often just "Everybody thinks like I do" mixed with pretentious arrogance 

Neurodivergents will often realise that they do not process stuff like others and be forced this very basic portion of maturity at a much younger age. Though any of them with something listed as a Learning Disability will often not do this, and instead believe that "I'd think like everybody if I wasn't so stupid. So other people think like I do, except faster"... which uh... is not a helpful thought to have bouncing around in your own head

So, it isn't so much them "finding encoded messages" so much as a "when I say this, I usually am not saying all of this, Ergo they must be doing exactly the same thing as I am doing". Same thing when they omit various details and notions, except more "well, I know that I am also thinking this stuff, ergo, they will hear this and also think similar things as well"

Benefits of Doing This

"Humans are inherently self serving" -- Johnathan Wernstrum, Business Blogs for Success

Now, like most of the really really dumb crap out there, there is a sort of feedback loop that includes some form of positive reinforcement on this stuff

In this case, let me ask you if you've ever went into a PokeCentre to heal Pokemon and then proceeded to treat the B Button like it is a Red-Headed Step Child with how much you pound the crap out of it? (Note to self: modern day prono vids have sufficiently changed how this phrase might be perceived. Try to find a new one)

Ever just scroll past large swathes of text in some piece of software or book you are going through, because you understand it as stuff you don't actually need to do stuff with?

What if there was a way to do this with human interactions?

Essentially, the whole "not saying a bunch of stuff" and "not expecting people to say stuff" operates on the same principle of hitting the "next text box" button for long bits of NPC dialogue in games, or scrolling past the entire EULA agreement

This then uses the standard method of translating "I know what I mean" into "they will know what I mean" for how a lot of people fail to communicate stuff

This doesn't just run into issues when a Neurotypicals runs into Neurodivergents, but it also causes misunderstandings to happen when talking to people of different Socio-economic classes, different cultures or different first languages. It also runs into issues when Neurotypicals do stuff with any form of record keeping. Hence why some types of Neurodivergents get a reputation for "just inherently being better at record keeping"... when it is actually, "yeah, I know I'm not going to know what I was thinking, so better just jot it down now"

The positive feedback this bit of behaviour does get, operates on the whole "I don't want to read the long soliloquies that Nurse Joy is giving about the current state of the ruling class of the Denmark Pokemon Region, and the apparently mental health of the Prince" mindset... and requires every person you interact with to be an NPC copied off your own brain

How It Often Gets Fixed

"Is the answer 'Going to therapy'?" -- Common Chant

Well... more often than not, if you have any large amount of real human interactions with people in different socio-economic classes from yourself, shift between socio-economic classes, travel to experience other cultures(as oppose to your own culture but with a different paint job), learn different languages, going to therapy or just work on improving your own media literacy

See, there are plenty of avenues that people do the stage of maturity of "wait, maybe not everybody else thinks like I do--just people from the same place I came from"

And no, travel will not inherently fix this notion. As a lot of time, various travel packages do not have you _actually_ visiting the other location. You instead end up visiting a set of faculties that make it seem like that place is just like where you came from--and hides all the different ways the local culture is different from you own. Except it also puts a different paint job on your own culture, to try to pretend like it is a different culture

Think like White People Tacos from Michigan as a similar concept. Where Tacos were made to be "Burgers but in a shell"--and a lot of what they actually are, gets dropped. I mean... I personally enjoy "burgers in a shell"... but I also recognise that proper Mexicana cuisine has some variations and differences from these notions

So, there _is_ industries that work to profit from you never learning that people might not approach things like how you personally approach them. So that is part of a problem

Writing also helps with getting this form of maturity. Though, that requires you having to go back to review/edit something you wrote from long enough ago that you cannot fully remember what you were or were not thinking when you wrote that stuff down

The note of "Jorgen apples in deluxe siraP" can work to communicate great enlightenment for a very short while after you wrote it... but well, eventually you just look at it and going "wait--what did I mean by that". Understand that there are plenty of people looking at that note, and thinking that exact same thing, even while you yourself understand it perfectly. Something Neurotypicals are not really able to consider as a concept, it seems

Oh my gosh, how do you not know that when I wrote, "The fish in Norway cheese donuts" I was thinking of the dream I had where Robert Lichterman, a fictional character in that dream, was moving wheel barrels of cold cut sausages into a house that was on a hill made out of living clones of Diddy Kong? It is really really obvious--and clearly you need to get better at following instructions!

Sure, dealing with Neurodivergent people can seem like they just aren't following you... but you aren't actually leading anybody. You are expecting people to already be where you currently are located... and uh... not really best way forward, now is it

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So yeah, figured I'd get up onto the soap box for this little inspiration I got